Category Archives: Friendship

“Frogs into Princes” Understanding the Magic that Happens When We Talk

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You may have heard of NLP, but if you haven’t it’s not your fault: Neuro Linguistic Programming (fittingly) has been simmering below the surface of the public consciousness for a few decades now. NLP is the study of how our minds use, interpret and process language and thought. This seemingly geeky subject turns out to be incredibly fun and useful, if you can figure it out. Using NLP in your day to day life effectively is kinda like the ‘stop the bullets in mid-air’ scene in The Matrix. Yes, I’m talking about hypnosis. Buckle up. Continue reading →

“21tiger Days” My Story of Graduating, Surviving, and Thriving in the New China

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Author: @21tigermike

“The Expat Era is over, you know. No more hand holding.”

These were the words of my Grad School advisor. Despite her warnings, a few years later, I’m still in China. Now and then people ask me about my first year, and I still look back on that time with fondness: everything was so new, so raw, and so free. If you’re working abroad, or thinking about it in future, definitely check out my true story of getting into, and surviving, China, and all the things I had to learn to make it happen.

21tiger Days includes:

  • The real narrative story, as well the critical ‘missing chapter’ Continuum that unifies all the previous books in a whole new light, multiplying their value immensely
  • 300+ pages covering all topics in the previous 21tiger books and tons of additional material,including the essay that started it all, and the origins of 21tiger
  • Completely redesigned layout and style, perfect for reading on a Kindle or other eReader

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“ProjectFun 2011″ The Greatest Social Network Ever

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Now the fun begins. After wrapping up work stuff, it’s time to build up your social life. No matter where you live, or what your financial situation is, you can learn to have a great time, and surround yourself with cool fun people. I call it ProjectFun, cause that’s what it’s really all about. What you do between leaving work Friday night and waking up Monday morning, should be rewarding, adventurous and carefree. Here’s your training wheels.

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“The Game” by Neil Strauss

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Author @neilstrauss Recommend @TherealSinn

Several years ago, when I was fresh out of high school, I stumbled across a website by a guy calling himself Dr. Don; he was giving advice to hapless guys on how to be good with women. At this point in my life, I needed all the help I could get: I thought I was funny, but I wore goofy clothes, had a bowl cut and Harry Potter glasses, and, well, you get the point. I needed help, and when I did an internet search, I found a universe of knowledge on the subject on the net.

After reading the odd ‘pickup line’, I didn’t really do much with it. I tried to work out, practice meeting people in public, being more outgoing, (eg. small talk with the barista at Starbucks, etc), but that’s pretty much it. When I was wrapping up my Economics degree, I was still chatting up girls by asking them if they’d bought the textbook for their new courses yet. I’m dead serious. But while I was occasionally trying out a few pickup lines I’d read online (and doing everything wrong), a community was blossoming: an of pickup artists and wannabes, better known as the Seduction Community. Continue reading →

“The Selfish Gene” by Richard Dawkins

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Author @RichardDawkins

Maybe it’s a quirk in my personality, but I’m always looking for some great truth, some unifying theory. After all, if the beautiful world around us was not created by a deity (which, as an explanation, explains nothing), but by something as ‘seemingly random’ as evolution, then surely there must be some great code, some great pattern (essentially a natural order, a natural ‘Ten Commandments, if you will) running through everything. We’ve always heard that ‘code’ is “fit”, but again, ‘fit’ in terms of genes doesn’t explain much either. I needed a little more, so I cracked open this book thinking it would open my eyes to some genetic truth. I soon found lots of amazing things, but was met with the crude ugly truth about genetics: they are anything but a guide for morality. The ‘beautiful pattern’ I was seeking was nowhere to be found. We are met with a contradiction, as men and women: the very thing that gives us enjoyment, indulgence– satisfaction of a few evolutionary “carrots”– is the opposite of what we consider ‘good’ and ‘moral’. Continue reading →

“The Power of Eye Contact” by Michael Ellsberg

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Author:@MichaelEllsberg Recommended by:@tferriss

I go to a lot of meetings. Not only am I a salesman, but I have a social life too: I go on dates, I go out for dinner with friends, I go out for drinks. Amazingly, every single one of these instances involves looking at another person for extended periods of time, often someone you just met.

Remember the first school dance you ever went to? I remember mine, and apart from the exhilaration of dancing with every girl in the class (what a stud), I did remember some awkward eye contact in there as well. As an 11 year old, I didn’t make great eye contact while I was dancing: I would look anywhere but directly at my partner. So Awkward. Now imagine, about 2 decades later, I’m sitting down with a client, going through the list of advantages and features of our products, and making eye contact with the barista 15 feet away. No sale (and no, getting the barista’s number doesn’t count). Continue reading →